What is considered appropriate for premarital Christian couples?

Is there anything sexual involved or is it completely sterile?What is considered appropriate for premarital Christian couples?
I'll try to remain strictly Biblical...





First thing we must note is that the culture of dating, petting, heavy petting etc prior to marriage was not common 2000 years ago. Accordingly wee shouldn't be surprised that the Bible doesn't list a set of activities that are and aren't appropriate.





One thing we do know is that dating should be a pre-cursor to marraige and so if after a few dates you are not convinced that the relationship is likely to go in this direction then you are best ending it there and then.





One thing we do know is that fornication (pre-marital sex) is a definite no-no for Christians for the sex is a symbol of the union between man and wife and therefore should be reserved for within marriage. This is the only thing that is stated as a 'law' within the Christian faith.





Short of this we have to ask:





1) Is it wise to put temptation in your way? Therefore are you wise to spend time alone with a girlfriend in your bedroom? Not sinful but perhaps not wise...





2) Are you also wise to push things to the limits? While oral sex is not expressly mentioned your view of sexual union must include an understanding of such actions. Do you believe that they are an aspect of sexual connection or not - if you do not then you must also realise that the Bible says on homosexuality only that the sexual act of anal intercourse is wrong. Accordingly two men can be fine so long as there is no intercourse (all other acts are peachy). And there is no problem with two women as there can be no such intercourse.





Some people set themselves laws for what they will and won't do before they are married. This might seem good but perhaps it is not wise especially given Jesus advised us not to make vows for our sinful nature only encourages us to break them. Rather we should weigh each decision and work out our own faith with fear and trembling before a holy God.





My personal opinion: all sexual intimacy should be reserved for marriage.





I see no need to kiss in lingering and sexual ways as part of determining whether you desire to marry a certain person. I'm not saying it is wrong, only I do not see that it should be part of a decision to marry or not. Feel free to do it or to abstain from it. It is a long way removed from sexual union but ask yourself this - if you saw your girlfriend doing it with another person would you consider them to be cheating on you? If so then perhaps it is a sexual act and should be reserved for marriage... But only perhaps... I cannot tell you that you have sinned if you do it...What is considered appropriate for premarital Christian couples?
I'd say it would be for them to avoid making ';promises about what they wouldn't do'; before they actually have a concept of the urges that the gods built into them. Otherwise it seems that they are just heading for a massive guilt-trip which accomplishes nothing useful.





And a lot of them end up ';preggers';, just like Palin's daughter. Keeping ignorant of the mechanics, doesn't protect one from the urges, and frankly makes them sitting ducks for it.
This is a hard question to answer.





It is said in the bible that masturbation is ';wrong'; that it's better to ejaculate in the belly of a prostitute. But in my opinion it should be vice versa. LOL I remember in my church going days when that scripture came up over half the guys in the room's face turned bright red and they were scared they were going to hell!! That was kinda funny!





If you're asking because you truly want to know then ask your pastor.





If you're asking because you want other people's opinions.... my opinion is what ever feels right in your own heart, and everyone is different. What is right for you isn't right for someone else.





If you're asking for a Christians point of view.... I can't help you here.
Uhhhh........do you know what the word ';sterile'; means?





(If English is a second language for you, I mean no disrespect. But you appear to have a misunderstanding about the meaning of the word.)









i would say anything considered affection (kissing/hugging) is ok,but anything sexual would probably be shunned upon (eg oral sex or masterbation between 2 people)
Dating, hugging, kissing, building the relationship. Sex should happen on the wedding night, or the morning after if they're too tired.
Has fornication not been allowed?


I don't know. Maybe you should email Sarah Palin
anal sex
It's whatever you want it to be.
Nah hump away. Who cares what Papa Smurf says?