Should they talk about marriage beforehand?What do you think about couples who move in together before marriage?
Its not a bad idea. My hubby and I didn't live together before we got married and our first argument was how we wash the dishes. Such a simple issue blew way out of proportion, its these little things that you don't really think about that pose a problem if you don't ';trial'; living together before getting married.
I do on the other hand suggest being at least engaged before moving in together so at least there is the commitment that you will take the next step of getting married.What do you think about couples who move in together before marriage?
I prefer move in first. You really get to see a side of your future spouse before you take the leap, giving you a better idea if you two actually fit together. Also, I have known a couple, very devoted who waited to move in and have sex before they married. They seemed sooooooo in-love. Well once they were married they really didn't fit together intimately and their marriage fell apart. I myself moved in before marriage and although we have ups and downs, I still am very much in-love with him.
statistics show that:
1. Those who live together before marriage are the least likely to marry each other.
2. Those who live together before marriage have higher separation and divorce rates.
3. Those who live together before marriage have unhappier marriages.
4. Those who are sexually active before marriage are much more likely to divorce.
5. Those who have had premarital sex are more likely to have extramarital affairs as well.
6. Those who live together are likely to have a fleeting romance rather than a lasting relationship.
7. Those who have had premarital sex are more likely to have extramarital affairs as well.
8. Those who have ';trial'; marriages do not have better marriages.
9. Those who live together have no lasting commitments or responsibilities.
10. Those who live together miss something in the maturing process.
11. Those living-together avoid dealing with some of the joint decisions that married couples have to make.
12. Those who live together often have a ';marriage of convenience'; or a ';marriage of compatibility'; rather than a marriage of commitment.
13. Those having premarital sex may be fooled into marrying a person who is not right for them.
14. Those living together have superficial and significantly weaker relationships.
15. Those who live together have more difficulty resolving conflicts.
16. Those who live together before marriage can kill the romance.
17. Those who live together before marriage often lay a foundation of distrust and lack of respect.
18. Those who live together do not experience the best sex.
... the list goes on.
Although the site I have quoted is a Christian-based site, the research results have also been replicated with non-religious sociologists. Search 'statistics living together before marriage' on Google.
it's bad. if they must, and marriage is the ultimate goal, it needs to be made sure of that it's a mutual goal ahead of time. otherwise, it'll just be shacking up w/ one waiting on it to develop into more and waiting, and waiting...
i discourage it b/c i haven't seen it be successful yet
I use to be really against it! I swore up and down I would never move in with a guy unless we were married. But something changed and I am living with my boyfriend now and I love it! We have been together for 3 years and lived together for 1 and it is perfect! Now I don't think I would ever think about marring anyone unless we have lived together (even though I highy doubt there will be anyone besides him) You learn so much about who they really are! Things you could never know with living with them! I married what I thought was the man of my dreams and after 6 months of living with him I realized that I could never be happy with him! It was like he was someone completly different once we left home! so yes Moving in together is a good idea!
Speaking from experience...
I would say that the woman always gets the worst part of that deal.
HE gets sex on the regular, HE gets his house cleaned for free, HE gets all the trappings of marriage without the legal binding commitment of marriage.
HIS motto: Hey, WE ain't married or nothing.
It is very true that you do get to know what a person is like but then that is what dating and TALKING are for.
If you can't ask questions and get answers from your potential life mate then maybe you two should not be together.
And remember to set a limit on how long this ';shacking'; will last.
I know of couples who have a 7yr old and a mortgage but no Marriage Certificate!!!
Peace
I wouldn't do it. Everyone that I know that lived together before they got married are now divorced. But the ones that waited until they got married to move in together are all still happily married. That being said though I think it's up to the couple. I don't look down on anyone for it....just wasn't how I wanted to do things.
God is the authority in all matters, especially relationships. So i'll give you HIS comandments...
Matthew 5:27
27Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: 28But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Proverbs 6:32
But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
Proverbs 15:24
The way of life is above to the wise, that he may depart from hell beneath.
Speaking of Hell:
Daniel 12:2
And many of them that sleep in the dust of the earth shall awake, some to everlasting life, and some to shame and everlasting contempt.
Matthew 25:46
And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.
God is Love......
John 3:16
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
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My husband and i moved in together 3 months before we got married and had already been engaged for 4 months when we started living together.
I think its a good idea because you get to know each other a lot better.
Its good But it can be bad
if you live with them with out being married your happy at first then you realize how they really are then you get mad and loose respect
when your married you see her or him more with respect, you feel closer, %26amp; the responsibility of being there %26amp; doing things together.
SOME PEOPLE ! THAT'S JUST MY OPINION!
I think it's a good idea to get to know the person better before just getting married then living together.
I did that once and it didn't work out. Everyone I knew who lived together before marriage is still together.
I highly recommend it. First, you need to know if there are daily habits that you were unaware of that would make it impossible to coexist peacefully. Also, I believe the try it before you buy it method. Who wants to marry a dud in the sack?
I think it's actually a good idea. You never know the true person until you've lived with them. It's true. You will see a whole different side to that person. And don't you want to know who it is you will really be marrying?
i think its a good idea
you learn alot about eachother and bond alot
you also learn if you could really stand being together all that time or if the small things will bother you
You never really know a person until you live with them. That is a true statement.
I think it was great for us. Other couples can do as they please....
If more people would do this we would have a drastic decrease in the number of divorces.
its a mistake
Mistake ~~~
Marriage is all about commitment.
Moving in together says someone does not want to commit.
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